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Jerry is a CPA, licensed nursing home administrator and health care consultant and Shari a cosmetologist, nursing home administrator and health care consultant.   We have been married for 60 years, together for 63 years and have an extended and blended family of 32. Together, we have been in the CPA, health care management consulting business for forty years.  We recently purchased and sold three nursing homes and were consultants to nursing home clients for twenty of those years.  As a result, Shari, a nursing home administrator, and I have delivered more than 200 workshops, training seminars and self-health presentations, including State and National health care events. Most recently, we’ve begun giving workshops to corporate Human Resource departments regarding the 12 Marriage Vows and Lifestyle Habits for staying married and healthy aging.  See our consulting website www.lifestylesforaging.com.  And as a nationally known consultant on Medicare and Medicaid, Jerry has a vast network of promotional partners willing to help promote Live and Love Forever After Marriage: 12 Marriage Vows to Live and Love by, Forever After.  Jerry has authored nine health care books, five poetry books, one novel, and a health care cost accounting book. 

We’ve also written and published industry newsletters for our clients and nursing home associations. Jerry has appeared on TV and radio as an expert and weekly radio show host for a program called “Focus on Health Care”. And our sole focus for the foreseeable future is promoting our books and assisting in national health care reform. Our main marketing websites are http://12vowsforstayingmarried.com and www.lifestylesforaging.com  and we have more details about our project in our detailed book proposal that follows. 

What are the odds of living and loving 60+ years after a first marriage like ours? Experts calculate that only 1 in 600,000 marriages will last 60 years. And .001 per 1,000 marriages will last 70 years. Especially since the divorce rate for first time marriages exceeds 50% and 70% for all others. (Every 13 seconds, there is a divorce in America. That equates to 2,419,196 divorces per year).  To our knowledge none have lived and loved forever after their first marriage vows blessed with the fountain of (you)th we have. However, it’s our goal to break the world’s marriage record of 93 years or die happy trying. Trying is another 30 years … how in the world can you live that long, look that good and feel good doing it? Our answer is life and love are eternal and we have vowed to live and love our life, forever after our marriage. So, can you. 

We believe we have made our own reality, due to our lifestyle, and everyone we meet wants to know “what’s your secret for being married 60+ years and how can we get what you’ve got”? With tongue in cheek, we get a laugh, when I say its ‘Sex, Kids and Rock -N-Roll.” But in essence, it’s a give and take loyal partnership and we have defied the conventional aging wisdom … which is retire at 55, 60 or 65 and start the chronic dying process. We however, in our early seventies, acquired three nursing homes then sold them in our late seventies and started a new career … co-writing this book about how our vows and habits formed a happy, loving lifestyle and a long-lasting relationship. Then reforming them if needed, to stay married and live together forever after. 

“Happy And Healthy Forever After Marriage

Statistics are against a happy forever after marriage. Since the 1960’s, 50% divorce rates are on an upward trend and haven’t seen the worst yet. Though there has been a decline in the recent numbers, this is not exactly good news. People nowadays marry later in life, usually for comfort and convenience. Some millennials shun the idea of tying the knot and settle for live-in arrangements. The essence of marriage has become more and more forgotten resulting in 30% of those live-in solutions, splitting up in the first year of marriage.

As a result, a successful first marriage is rare but certainly achievable. This is exactly how it went for this lovely couple, coauthors Jerry and Shari Rhoads. They have been married for sixty years (61 on November 27, 2020), and present in their book, their secrets: “Live and Love Forever After Marriage: 12 Marriage Vows to Live and Love by, Forever After.”

The book is meant to be a template to help people who are about to venture into the journey of marriage OR REMARRIAGE. In their “Girl talk and Guy talk” section of each chapter is the real-life experiences and secrets of the Rhoads’ and how they made their marriage work for over six decades. It will also help struggling couples rekindle their passion with a loving companionship and sex life for love that honors their marriage vows.

With a light-hearted take on love and commitment, Jerry and Shari invoke inspiration and how a renewed belief in a long-lasting life with love, health and happiness realistically results in longevity together.”